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Hi Gang!
When I joined FB about five years ago, it was literally my playground. I could post anything, anytime, interact, it was one big party.
Then some of my Friends got crotchety, became militant vegans, became political, or would shamelessly self promote.
I could live with that!
Now I look at my Friends List and truthfully I only want to interact with a couple dozen ~
What also has happened is that extended and distantly extended family members and (god forgive me) a Frienemy have Friended me, and I had to add them for social reasons. One reports to her mom things I post because the mom will comment on them and she would have no way of knowing. Or another aunt thinks everything's “OK” or has the veneer of everything being “OK” even though her husband is a Creep.
It's not like anything is “BAD” (quotes and no quotes), but it's hard to be myself, be a free spirit, or post any innocuous thing without it being or becoming a “Thing”. I feel like I'm being monitored and watched. And I am.
I am only on for my kids and one FaceBook game I have gotten quite attached to.
I Hid/Hide posts as much as I can, my Privacy settings are high. I check in less and less.
I want to start over or disappear without the Social Fallout.
Or find a new social media site which everyone (but not, you know, Every One flocks to!)
This is not a serious problem, or even a true problem, but I'm sure some of you can relate! How do you relate to FaceBook five years in?
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I don't like it now, and I'm trying to figure out ways to get away from it without losing the contact with the people with whom I am only in contact through FB. I was away from there for a long time and during that time I became calmer and less egocentric. Now I can clearly see what a bad influence it can have on a person.
I have had to stop following some people. I haven't removed them from my friends list, but I become a bit depressed when I see them post something. The endless whining over things. In most cases, it has stopped being about the actual topic, and it's just a way for people to let others know how discontent they are with everything. I've also noticed that there is no point in engaging some people. I once tried, in vain, to tell someone that if they are so worried over social inequality, then perhaps they shouldn't target one particular group of people and blame them for all the problems in the world. She didn't understand me at all, and was hell bent on unleashing her wrath over a specific group of people, without an ounce of self-awareness. People are so focused on what they are talking about and are so obsessed with being right, that they forget what the point originally was supposed to be. Oh well.
You can have “tiers” in your FB. Just group the people you want to share things with and when ever you post, just post so that they are the only ones who see things. I know it takes a bit of effort and I honestly can't be bothered myself anymore.
So, I guess I don't really have any solution for you, but you do have my sympathies. I really dislike FB and I think it's bad for people's mental health.
Hi Gang!
When I joined FB about five years ago, it was literally my playground. I could post anything, anytime, interact, it was one big party.
Then some of my Friends got crotchety, became militant vegans, became political, or would shamelessly self promote.
I could live with that!
Now I look at my Friends List and truthfully I only want to interact with a couple dozen ~
What also has happened is that extended and distantly extended family members and (god forgive me) a Frienemy have Friended me, and I had to add them for social reasons. One reports to her mom things I post because the mom will comment on them and she would have no way of knowing. Or another aunt thinks everything's “OK” or has the veneer of everything being “OK” even though her husband is a Creep.
It's not like anything is “BAD” (quotes and no quotes), but it's hard to be myself, be a free spirit, or post any innocuous thing without it being or becoming a “Thing”. I feel like I'm being monitored and watched. And I am.
I am only on for my kids and one FaceBook game I have gotten quite attached to.
I Hid/Hide posts as much as I can, my Privacy settings are high. I check in less and less.
I want to start over or disappear without the Social Fallout.
Or find a new social media site which everyone (but not, you know, Every One flocks to!)
This is not a serious problem, or even a true problem, but I'm sure some of you can relate! How do you relate to FaceBook five years in?
This topic was modified 4 years, 2 months ago by .
I don't like it now, and I'm trying to figure out ways to get away from it without losing the contact with the people with whom I am only in contact through FB. I was away from there for a long time and during that time I became calmer and less egocentric. Now I can clearly see what a bad influence it can have on a person.
I have had to stop following some people. I haven't removed them from my friends list, but I become a bit depressed when I see them post something. The endless whining over things. In most cases, it has stopped being about the actual topic, and it's just a way for people to let others know how discontent they are with everything. I've also noticed that there is no point in engaging some people. I once tried, in vain, to tell someone that if they are so worried over social inequality, then perhaps they shouldn't target one particular group of people and blame them for all the problems in the world. She didn't understand me at all, and was hell bent on unleashing her wrath over a specific group of people, without an ounce of self-awareness. People are so focused on what they are talking about and are so obsessed with being right, that they forget what the point originally was supposed to be. Oh well.
You can have “tiers” in your FB. Just group the people you want to share things with and when ever you post, just post so that they are the only ones who see things. I know it takes a bit of effort and I honestly can't be bothered myself anymore.
So, I guess I don't really have any solution for you, but you do have my sympathies. I really dislike FB and I think it's bad for people's mental health.
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